As far as dating and race go, I think. Black people are most frequently the ones who blow off an entire race, to date another. Sure there are other ethnic groups that do that as well, but you always hear black men and women talking about why black men and women are no good. Alot of times, Black people, dont even like black people. I think that sometimes it so easy to justify why one is better than the other, because they (black men & women) tolerate things differently, depending on who (which race) it comes from.
I'm going to talk about black men though, especially the ones who claim they can't or won't date black women. I know a guy who is very interested in being involved with a white female who he says is easy going, and in to what he does, doesn't worry about paying for everything (which is points for him), even though he pays too, sexing all night, drinking and partying at the club--
HOLD UP! I'm quite sure there are women of all ethnicities that are willing to do that, (pay, party & sex-up, etc..) out there, but everyone just ISN'T gonna volunteer everything they've got up front--not all the time. I would, for the right gentleman. But there's too many swindlers for it to be automatic. He's just tired of look for them.
ANYWAY,
--- he just discovered why she's got it ($$$) like that, 'cause her occupation is in the very lucrative side of adult services. Yet he's still pursuing the relationship. Granted he did express his concern that he doesn't want her to do that kind of work anymore, should they continue, he is still seeing her, she is still working. Now here's where I really get into my opinion. Now, I think: if that had been a black girl, I don't think he would have given her another chance after finding out that type of info, even if it was just exotic dancing or some kind of nude internet modeling. He would have been on to the next one and she would have been all types of money loving freaks & hoes.
But black men tolerate things in non-black women, that they wouldn't tolerate in black women, I THINK. Don't forget, this is just my opinion.
I don't have a problem with people dating outside their race, if they're dating for the person and not just the race. I think dating solely for race reasons is kinda messed up..... it's racist. However, in speaking my opinion of black men, I just think black men are so much more tolerant of things with non-black women. For instance black women always wonder why they see attractive black men with what they see as average or... how can I say.... not very attractive white women.
I think black men tolerate things like average looks or worst, in exchange for long hair and fair skin, plus maybe they (the non-black women) may not really know where they (black men) are coming from in life, with what they're saying or doing, so they (non-black women) may not ask questions and negate; they'll just take it at face value. You say you do this, that, and the other, then that must be true. Meanwhile, alot of black women have been right there with you, been through the same things, came from the same type of people, homes, lifestyle. Black women, might know the game, so they're going to ask questions-- for clarification. You gotta show and prove. We may not just wanna hear the talk, we want to see the walk, too. Now I'm not saying that is the end all be all, but just based on what I have observed, with some of the guys I know, its just reality.
Men already have the greatest self-esteem, probably all that needing them to procreate stuff. Even an average or less black man, and it depends, because beauty is in the eye of the beholder, wants and believes he deserves only the finest, most beautiful woman. Everybody wants a Barbie, a bad b---h, a 5* chick, and then "if you ain't got no booty then you gotta go home"--the Dream.
"Do my ladies run it, fat asses and flat stomachs?..."--Juelz Santana
"I like them Ameries, [not] them Amarosas"--Lil' wayne, who is dark skinned and not deemed awfully attractive by the majority, but according to his lifestyle $$ (all light skinned- medium/mixed baby mommas) and words, he does not like darker skinned women. Go figure. Oh well. I guess, you like what you like.
You gotta have donk, you gotta twerk, you gotta have long hair, but, then they're gonna put you down and label you fake for having a weave, etc... It is hard work trying be attractive to black men, only to watch them leave with,date, or marry a non-black, who doesn't have a donk, might have a potbelly, and couldn't twerk if it were for life or death.
I think black men want black women to be the reflection of all of their perfect desires, plus without questioning whatever gift of gab they give out. Meanwhile, if you're non-black and you don't question them (like those damn black girls, SMH!) you don't have to work as hard. You hair ain't gotta be perfect, cause don't get it twisted, white girls are weaving to achieve too; non- black women, you don't have to have the perfect body, at least you're not black. With black women, you could be as cute in the face, slim in the waist as you wanna be, but a black dude will find something wrong.
Black man: She a-ight, she ain't got no ass though.
You went out and got a Rihanna, Pink, Halle or who ever hair cut--
Black man: I don't like bald head girls.
Who DOESN'T like Halle Berry?!... BULLSHIT!!
Meanwhile, he's wallking aroung with a non-black, quote-unquote model chick, 5* chick, or whatever, with a Bob haircut and a serious case of NOASSATALL. Go figure.
Black man: I mean really, who needs all THAT ass? Your wide hips look good too.
Like I said I couldn't care less. I'm not out here trying desperately to land a man anyway. I'm just saying.
