NO MEANS NO!...and so does stop, don't, get the f**k off of me!

So the subject has been brought up, AGAIN, about rape and whose fault it is. This is my blog and I can only give you my opinion, so..... um...

I'm gonna go with the rapist. I think it is the rapists fault any way around. If you consent to sexual activity with someone, and the other party, just before you reach the OH-Town,

says "NO" or "STOP" or any other variation that DOESN'T mean continue doing what you're doing, and YOU DON'T, and that person accuses you of rape/forcing them against theire will, well.... my friend....or foe... You are a rapist. Also, I don't think the person who let you get started and then told you "no" is at fault. The person who doesn't back off when it's time to is.

I don't think it matters what they person is wearing either. People get butterball naked under medical gowns, that doesn't give a doctor the right to violate them. People dance, naked on stages, poles and sometimes laps, it still does not give anyone one else the privilege to violate their bodies. Even if you are paying someone, it's a business arrangement. If they decide they dont want to do business with you anymore, then you just can't TAKE IT ANYWAY. If it's legal (sex-- only in Arizona, in the U.S.A.), you could always take them to small claims court if you're that pressed for the money back guarantee.

I don't care. I DON'T THINK THAT ANYONE HAS THE RIGHT TO GO AGAINST SOMEONE'S WILL AND HAVE SEX WITH THEM.

Even if they are stark naked on any type of MLK Ave., Blvd., Parkway, Street (For those who don't know, it has been an ongoing joke, that although MLK,Jr. stood for nonviolence, it seems as though in many cities the most notoriously violent areas occur around or on roadways named after him.) or YOUR BED, it STILL does not give you the right to violate their body, and rape/sexually assault/molest/etc... them.

That goes for everyone. We teach children all the time to keep their hands to themselves, yet just because people surpass puberty, they think they can surpass rights. GET THE F**K OUTTA HERE!!!!

I'm speaking on males and females. I attended a party at someone's home, where they provided both male and female exotic dancer entertainment. While the male, was performing, at one point his face was covered where he could not see. During that time, much to the shock,awe, and horror of the guests who were viewing closest to the side of the room where his... ah.... package...

lay, a woman grabbed his.... package and placed it in her mouth. It happened quickly, but STILL, IT HAPPENED. This may see like a trivial, unimportant, maybe even pleasant act to some men. But it was NOT, any of those things to the male exotic dancer. He jumped up in a shocked manner, but continued to perform, as he didn't exactly know what happened, since he did NOT see. After his performance, when my friends and I asked about the incident, he was quite shocked and a little bothered. He had not invited anyone to touch him, and especially not put their MOUTH on it. Just like people think they don't want what strippers may or may not have; the strippers might not want what YOU have or may not have EITHER!

So just like any scantily clad female, a scantily clad male, even though he might LITERALLY BE ASKING FOR IT, is still not up for grabs for anyone having their way with them against their will.

The bottom line is NO means NO. I know there are some simple people out there who would argue that sometimes "they" don't say "no." Don't be stupid though, you KNOW when a person is objecting to something.

The other day my friend's son was trying to grab a package off of a shelf in a store. He's a baby! He doesn't even talk yet. " I told him "No, " he stopped. Of course he tried again... cause he's a baby. I said "Ah-Ah," and guess what? He stopped. Even a baby knows that just because the word/words are different, they mean the same thing--DON'T DO IT!!!

So I don't want to hear the bullsh*t excuses about what SHE was wearing, and what SHE, was drinking, and WHAT she was doing--- if she says NO, then BACK THE F**K OFF, chalk it up as a loss, and go about your business!

Any OBJECTION means NO or the makings of something alluding to the fact that the person does NOT want you to continue doing what you are doing-- "Stop," "I changed my mind...," " I don't want to"... it's all the same.

And if SHE can't respond, because:

you slipped her a mickey--- RAPE

she's too doped up/drunk--- RAPE

passsed out/unconscious --- RAPE

An unresponsive person CAN'T give consent.

Example:

The kids at my job constantly ask me for things, and to do things, then before I can even answer they're doing stuff. Then when I get mad-- -they don't understand.

They say: "Well, I asked you if I could..."

To which I respond: " Well, did I answer?"

Their answer: is always "No."

And there you have it, in that order.

No answer-- means NO! NOT GO!

Take it back to elementary/primary school!

Keep your hands to yourself.

...and I'm spent!

Ms. Kane if you're nasty!

Black men- Women Wanted: no blacks allowed

As far as dating and race go, I think. Black people are most frequently the ones who blow off an entire race, to date another. Sure there are other ethnic groups that do that as well, but you always hear black men and women talking about why black men and women are no good. Alot of times, Black people, dont even like black people. I think that sometimes it so easy to justify why one is better than the other, because they (black men & women) tolerate things differently, depending on who (which race) it comes from.

I'm going to talk about black men though, especially the ones who claim they can't or won't date black women. I know a guy who is very interested in being involved with a white female who he says is easy going, and in to what he does, doesn't worry about paying for everything (which is points for him), even though he pays too, sexing all night, drinking and partying at the club--

HOLD UP! I'm quite sure there are women of all ethnicities that are willing to do that, (pay, party & sex-up, etc..) out there, but everyone just ISN'T gonna volunteer everything they've got up front--not all the time. I would, for the right gentleman. But there's too many swindlers for it to be automatic. He's just tired of look for them.

ANYWAY,
--- he just discovered why she's got it ($$$) like that, 'cause her occupation is in the very lucrative side of adult services. Yet he's still pursuing the relationship. Granted he did express his concern that he doesn't want her to do that kind of work anymore, should they continue, he is still seeing her, she is still working. Now here's where I really get into my opinion. Now, I think: if that had been a black girl, I don't think he would have given her another chance after finding out that type of info, even if it was just exotic dancing or some kind of nude internet modeling. He would have been on to the next one and she would have been all types of money loving freaks & hoes.

But black men tolerate things in non-black women, that they wouldn't tolerate in black women, I THINK. Don't forget, this is just my opinion.

I don't have a problem with people dating outside their race, if they're dating for the person and not just the race. I think dating solely for race reasons is kinda messed up..... it's racist. However, in speaking my opinion of black men, I just think black men are so much more tolerant of things with non-black women. For instance black women always wonder why they see attractive black men with what they see as average or... how can I say.... not very attractive white women.

I think black men tolerate things like average looks or worst, in exchange for long hair and fair skin, plus maybe they (the non-black women) may not really know where they (black men) are coming from in life, with what they're saying or doing, so they (non-black women) may not ask questions and negate; they'll just take it at face value. You say you do this, that, and the other, then that must be true. Meanwhile, alot of black women have been right there with you, been through the same things, came from the same type of people, homes, lifestyle. Black women, might know the game, so they're going to ask questions-- for clarification. You gotta show and prove. We may not just wanna hear the talk, we want to see the walk, too. Now I'm not saying that is the end all be all, but just based on what I have observed, with some of the guys I know, its just reality.

Men already have the greatest self-esteem, probably all that needing them to procreate stuff. Even an average or less black man, and it depends, because beauty is in the eye of the beholder, wants and believes he deserves only the finest, most beautiful woman. Everybody wants a Barbie, a bad b---h, a 5* chick, and then "if you ain't got no booty then you gotta go home"--the Dream.

"Do my ladies run it, fat asses and flat stomachs?..."--Juelz Santana

"I like them Ameries, [not] them Amarosas"--Lil' wayne, who is dark skinned and not deemed awfully attractive by the majority, but according to his lifestyle $$ (all light skinned- medium/mixed baby mommas) and words, he does not like darker skinned women. Go figure. Oh well. I guess, you like what you like.

You gotta have donk, you gotta twerk, you gotta have long hair, but, then they're gonna put you down and label you fake for having a weave, etc... It is hard work trying be attractive to black men, only to watch them leave with,date, or marry a non-black, who doesn't have a donk, might have a potbelly, and couldn't twerk if it were for life or death.

I think black men want black women to be the reflection of all of their perfect desires, plus without questioning whatever gift of gab they give out. Meanwhile, if you're non-black and you don't question them (like those damn black girls, SMH!) you don't have to work as hard. You hair ain't gotta be perfect, cause don't get it twisted, white girls are weaving to achieve too; non- black women, you don't have to have the perfect body, at least you're not black. With black women, you could be as cute in the face, slim in the waist as you wanna be, but a black dude will find something wrong.

Black man: She a-ight, she ain't got no ass though.

You went out and got a Rihanna, Pink, Halle or who ever hair cut--

Black man: I don't like bald head girls.

Who DOESN'T like Halle Berry?!... BULLSHIT!!

Meanwhile, he's wallking aroung with a non-black, quote-unquote model chick, 5* chick, or whatever, with a Bob haircut and a serious case of NOASSATALL. Go figure.

Black man: I mean really, who needs all THAT ass? Your wide hips look good too.

Like I said I couldn't care less. I'm not out here trying desperately to land a man anyway. I'm just saying.